Many scenes can result in the rush of endorphins, which may leave anyone feeling ‘floaty’, unresponsive, unable to communicate properly etc, and in need of someone to ensure they remain safe until they come back to earth. This does not just have to be the submissive; it can affect the Dom just as much. The length of aftercare sought will vary from person to person and indeed between types of play. Some people seem to ‘ground’ themselves very quickly, others may take several hours.

Someone once told me that the length of aftercare should be directly proportionate to the ½ the length of the scene. Many will disagree with this, but it seems to work for me generally.

Physical aftercare.

Physical and mental trauma will have a serious effect on the body, whether or not it is being done for pleasure or pain. In many ways an endorphin high can have a similar effect to intoxication or drug use, with high and them a low / come down.

Often a sub may feel particularly hot or cold after a scene, the body may shake, and they may feel extreme emotions. There is no fixed way to administer aftercare, but as a guideline, you should have a blanket to cover the sub, to stop any chills, a chair so that they can sit down when they are ready, and a cup of tea, sweet drink / glass of water etc. (Cures everything). Keep the area they are in warm, but not too hot and try to ensure it is well ventilated

Keep check that the person does not feel faint or giddy, if they do, get them on to the floor and if possible into the recovery position. Keep checking that they can speak and that their eyes do not appear to be ‘lacklustre’. This can be a sign of shock, especially after a prolonged or intense scene. (See Shock). Stay with them for as long as they need you to.

Many people feel sleepy after play, which is fine. Find a quiet corner and stay with them.

When all players feel comfortable, you can give a quick top-to-toe check. Ask the person how they feel. Get them to replay parts of a scene, tell a story etc. If they seem disorientated, high, etc, rest for longer or if unsure at any time, seek medical help.

Do not give a person alcohol during the aftercare, but allow them soft drinks or preferably water.

Always remember to deal with the person first, and the toys later. (Even with edge play)

Aftercare in edge play.

Due to the often-extreme nature of this type of play, aftercare may take a lot longer. Ensure that everyone is comfortable before you begin cleaning your toys. Where possible, have a trusted assistant who can clean up for you, or look after your sub/ Dom whilst you clean up.

Ensure that all sharps/ disposable blades etc are placed in sealed sharps bin. All soiled items such as gloves; wipes etc should be placed into a sealed bag preferably medical waste, before disposal. At the very least, seal the bag tightly before placing in the bin.

Use antibacterial spray / bleach to wipe down all surfaces when you have finished play. (Especially at clubs)